According to the experts, if you are divorced and interested in dating, keep the kids out of it.
“You dont introduce new partners, new friends into kids lives until you are pretty sure this is going to be a serious relationship,” said clinical psychologist Dr. Gerald Berger.
After divorce, it takes time for kids to get used to mom and dad being apart, give it a few months before introducing them to others.
“Kids are very sensitive to loss and to change and try to help kids not to be exposed to multiple relationships that kids get their hopes up and they get disappointed. We need to be sensitive to kids to having exposed them to loss and not be traumatized to that issue,” said Berger.
Parents must set aside alone time with the kids. Before the introductions, its best to make sure the kids are stable.
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My new wife and I (remarried 12-6-08) seperated in Sept. of this year, due to step-family issues. We are now trying to reconcile our differences, but she is concerned about her kids knowing about it. I feel like I’m the bastard son, and swept under the rug anytime they may catch drift of our trying to work this out, for the betterment of all of us! I’ve learned alot during our brief time apart, and have been dealing with my own flaws, accepting those I can change, and trying to better myself. If I am being terribly wrong with my thoughts about this, I want to correct that also. But if not, how could I lovingly explain to my wife that I should be able to see the kids and let them know we are, albeit, trying to start again in our relationship?