# Treat them like they’re your own. No child likes to be disrespected! Let alone a stepchild. They may act like you’re unwelcome, but that may be because they assume you think that you are their ‘replacement Dad’. Ignore the discouragement, and just treat them like your own kids.
# Go easy on the discipline. They’ll hate you for sure if you constantly nag, nag, nag about their grades, or nag, nag, nag about uncompleted chores. In their minds, no matter how awesome you are, they aren’t yours. It’s your job to teach them otherwise. They’ll never appreciate you if you mother them.
# Do amazing things. You have to think about them. They are your precious angels. When you’re out at the store, call their mother and ask if she or the kid(s) need anything. Anything at all. Or, better yet, want anything. If you can’t find what they want, call again and ask for a cheaper/more commonly found replacement. (WARNING: Guessing the replacement is an absolute no-no! What if you buy the cheapest of cheap brands and end up wasting your money?)
Stepmothers and Stepdaughters: Relationships of Chance, Friendships for a Lifetime
It’s a good step to look for guidelines on parenting step children. It implies you care and value the relationship you can establish with them to at last be respected and loved by them. You should not be sure to be obeyed at the beginning or to be allowed to discipline them. You’ll have to proceed step by step.
To sum up the progression of your relationship with your step children, you will start a little bit as a baby sitter, later will be seen somehow like an uncle or aunt and inevitably as a real parent, a pretty close member of the family. Just remember you want to become their friend. Their parents are here for the discipline part, you’re not. And yes, that is an advantage!
Parenting step children takes 7 steps:
Read more…7 Steps to Help Parenting Step Children – Wheretofindpedia
